Watching "The View" this morning, I heard a performance by singer Ne-Yo. The name of the song is "Let Me Love You (Until You Learn to Love Yourself)". It really caught my attention.
For someone who just went through a divorce and stood by another friend going through one of the nastiest divorces I've ever seen...that title pretty much says it all. Divorce beats the hell out of your emotional strength, reducing you to a gelatinous mess. You spend too much time wondering what you did wrong, what's wrong with you, and if anyone will love you ever again.
What she and I both need are men and friends who live that title. Our ability to love ourselves is damaged and will take time to repair. It's a vicious cycle. Our failure to love ourselves right now makes us doubt everyone. We push people away or question whether their feelings are true. Our own insecurities become self-fulfilling prophecies.
It is those who truly love us who are still standing next to us. They realize that patience and steadfastness will win out and carry us through the gloom. We are lucky to have them.
For your listening pleasure...here is the link to the song: