Tuesday, May 15, 2012

A Change In My Nest, Part II

I've received a lot (read: a ton!) of questions from friends and family as to why, how, etc. did the divorce happen.  The truth is, and as I've said from the beginning, is that I honestly don't know.  It was not of my volition and the only answer I ever received was "You're my best friend but I want a change."

So what do you do with that?  The answer is let it go.  I'll never know any more than that.  I know it frustrates everyone when that is the only answer I give but it's the only answer I have.

So why?  I don't know.  But does it even matter at this point?  No.  What's done is done.  I've let it go.  Don't get me wrong, I'm no superwoman.  Sometimes it still hits me like a Mac truck.  Feeling not good enough is a painful thing.  I'm only human and I feel that pain.  I'm too old to live in it and let my remaining life pass by.

So now you know as much as I do about the why.  To those who are still frustrated and whose curiosity still isn't satisfied?  Sorry...nothing more I can do for you.  For those looking for something juicy to gossip about or use to attack...Sorry, nothing I can do for you, either!  It is what it is.

Onward I go.  This is definitely a journey and I choose to view it as an adventure.  I've heard all my life that everything is a matter of perspective.  I stand here as living proof.



  1. Couldn't say it better myself, but the questions will keep coming until you run out of people who know.

  2. Sigh... I'm hoping this will be enough!!

  3. So sorry to hear about the divorce, but you're absolutely right to think of it as an adventure! Changes, whether welcomed or not, are always a chance for adventure if we're willing to look at it like that. So you're right for seeing it that way. And I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, the big and the small, so this change in your life is a journey you're meant to take - so why not try and make some fun of it!

    And for those who will still pester you with questions, I say just give them a ridiculous answer that will leave them speechless. "He fell in love with the idea of becoming a monkey herder in Ireland, and I'm afraid of flying."

    Best of luck on this journey, make the most of the new path laid before you!

    1. OMG, Darian!!! You absolutely rock!!!!!! I love that!



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