Friday, May 25, 2012

Who Gets The Friends?

When you get a divorce, you split your assets, the cash, and the bills.  In some cases, you split visitation with kids and/or pets.  But what about the friends?

With my recent divorce, I actually had to de-friend a couple of people on Facebook.  Not for any reason that has to do with them personally, but the fact that their husbands regularly read their pages.  One friend's husband even goes so far as to post as her on Facebook without informing the other party it isn't her.  Her friends have tried to explain to her that the behavior violates just about every rule of on-line etiquette and is an invasion of privacy for the other person.  My personal assumption is that when I am interacting with you on your page, it is with you.  If I wanted someone else (husband or not) to know that information, I would tell them myself.  Not allowing me to make that decision as to whom I share information with is a violation of not only my privacy but our friendship.

That being said, I haven't heard from either of them since the divorce.  I guess that pretty much says it all.

On the flip side, I have friends who were so amazingly supportive that I am in awe of these women.  In particular, two friends showed up at my house repeatedly to help me pack and to support me.  They took time out of their busy lives to be there when I needed them.  Another flew to Texas just to help me drive to my new home, taking off work and accruing the expense of time and travel.  These women will always be in my heart and there are no words adequate enough to thank them and express what that meant to me.  Especially in light of those who couldn't make the time in their busy social calendars to even bother.

It's when you're down that you truly learn who is standing beside you.  Who got the friends?  In my estimation, I am the luckiest woman alive...I always had them.



  1. wondered if you'd want to try your hand at fiction with my new writing workshop hop...with prompts and critiques if interested! Would love to have you.

    1. Sandra,
      I would love to but right now I'm a bit overwhelmed!! Still have some unpacking, etc. to do and still getting settled. Keep me in mind for the next go-round, please!!



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